The Cruel Charade of the Personal Development Industry & Why it’s Bad for the Environment

Wouldn’t it be great if hard work really did enable you to achieve your goals?

In order for it to be a possible you would need to be motivated and have the resources. If that is the case, a good performance coach could help you achieve those goals.

If I’m coaching a business owner, they will usually achieve their success because they’ve got the resources and they’re motivated. But there can be a downside.

Somebody can achieve goals and realise it wasn’t worth the effort and neither is it worth keeping up the charade of ‘being seen’ as successful.

French chef Sébastien Bras, having achieved three Michelin stars, realised it wasn’t worth the effort to maintain them and so handed them back. The Michelin stars were not aligned with his motivation or values. They were not ecological.

The personal development industry probably started as far back as the Axial period which occurred around 500-300 BCE. This is when humanity experienced a cognitive shift from a narrative style and acceptance of what happened as being beyond our control, to one which was more reflective and analytical.

It also helped us focus on longer-term meaningful goals as opposed to short-term materialism. This was enabled by the invention of symbols and writing which we used as memory tools but also helped us reframe our own lives.

It was now possible to understand the effects we and others have on the systems around us. Which, given the situation within the world presently is obviously not being utilised effectively by the winners of this paradigm.

As the agrarian revolution became established, we see that warfare increased as the already powerful people grasped for more land and power. This was the beginning of capitalism.

A good performance coach would have been useful then because not only do wealthy landowners have the resources to achieve all the goals they desire, they’re also highly motivated being infected with greed and self-importance. So, a performance coach appearing as a Machiavellian bureaucrat could help them identify strategies and opportunities to increase their wealth.

However, at what cost?

As chef Sébastien insightfully realised, the goal is not WISE.

Worthwhile – Is the goal worth the effort in terms of resources and impact on your health and wellbeing?

Inspiring – Is it a long-term goal which will be a positive benefit to the world?

Stretching – Will the goal stretch me personally making me a better person?

Ecological– is it ecological? What do other people and the planet think about it?

We have to think more in terms of ecology. The universe and nature do not move in straight lines powered by simplistic philosophies, which is where the pseudo-scientific world of personal and professional development world abound.

For example, if you were to examine any business from an ecological perspective and ask

“Is your business profitable?”

Then you would, if you were to add back into the equation all the external costs such as pollution and waste which occurs, realise most businesses are not.

We work in a world which is unfair and unequal. The rich don’t play by any rules that the rest of us abide by. They have armies of accountants and lobbyists to keep it unfair.

Being told you’re not winning because you’re not motivated enough, not in possession of the right skill set or got the right coach, is only half the story. That philosophy plays right into the hands of the winners to keep them winning.

The system isn’t able to operate on everybody being successful in a way which suits the status-quo.

Only some people are in the right place and time to be competitive enough to be successful entrepreneurs. Not everybody can or wants to be a tech-digital superstar.

The world of capitalism is based on compete and control, so is only designed to suit some winners. If you’re being coached on chasing somebody else’s version of success then you might want to think again.

Setting goals that are not ecological are usually bad for you, your connections and the environment. We will not transform the world overnight, but by becoming more eco-system literate, we can shift our thinking to when compassion, collaboration and meaning mattered more than material success.

As a rebel, maverick, coach or leader, you can learn to become better at setting more ecological goals. You might not achieve success based on other people’s version of success, but you might be able to see more of reality and perhaps gain insights on how you can make a positive impact in the world.

If you’d like an introduction to Eco-Coaching join me here: https://tinyurl.com/EcoCoaching

Developing Social Systems to Prevent The Four Horses of the Apocalypse

Environment predicts behaviour and the challenge with trying to transform the world is that we’re still operating in a culture of ‘Dominance Hierarchy’.

As Anand Giridharadas notes in his book: ‘Winners Take All’ the elites begin to lead social change only to let their own bias for power and control, restrict any useful transformation.

The challenge with inequality and hierarchy is that it encourages the ‘Four Horses of the Apocalypse’ i.e. Psychopathology, Narcissism, Machiavellianism and Sadism.

We’ve seen no end of this in world leaders, yet we still wait for them to make the world a better place for us?

Make your organisations egalitarian, which requires a different leadership skill set than is usually taught and also the language changes too. From Employee to collaborator.

#leadership #environment #power #transformation #culture #leaders #change #psychopathology #domiancehierarchy

Better Business Summit

When change agents don’t speak out because they’re scared the system will reject them, then there are no pioneers, rebels or mavericks… Just managers and enablers of the status-quo.

Fortunately 👩🏻‍💻Hannah Cox FRSA FRGS kicked off the The Better Business Network Summit which brought together courageous collaborators on a mission to transform the paradigm we’re living in.

It was a privilege being asked to be on a panel on Day 2 and then be co-leading the Freshwalks around the hills of Edale.

The Great Outdoors is an excellent arena for meeting, talking, being inspired, getting into ‘flow’ states and building resilience. it’s important to challenge ourselves often.

The stoics call it voluntary challenge, an essential activity for change agents, because they face mighty challenges. Challenging the status-quo is not for the feint hearted. it was an honour to spend a day out in the hills with this plucky community:)

#network #community #business
#change
#leadership
#mavericks
#rebels
#changeagents
#bethechange

How Capitalism and Hierarchy Continue to Destroy the Health of the World.

In the UK, air pollution is the largest environmental risk to public health. The annual mortality of human-made air pollution in the UK is roughly equivalent to between 28,000 and 36,000 deaths every year.

Asthma is the most common long-term medical condition in children in the UK, with around one in 11 children and young people living with asthma. The UK has one of the highest prevalence, emergency admission and death rates for childhood asthma in Europe. Outcomes are worse for children and young people living in the most deprived areas

I went for a walk in the countryside yesterday and found myself coughing as I realised I was breathing in the acrid exhaust fumes emanating from #PolyntGroup factory in the valley below me.
This is an Italian organisation, polluting the air in Staffordshire and probably sending the profits back to Europe.

They boast on their website about their sustainability credentials, but somehow me thinks, they’re not really a robust effort to sustain the environment or the stakeholders who live near their factories.

But hey!! Capitalism is the best way to run society…. Really??

When you dig into how this is possible, you find out that the local counsellors are often friends of these organisations. Politicians are in the service of the wealthy.

The environmental department at the local council is overrun with cases, one can’t help think purposely under resourced, so they are ineffectual.

These firms employ clever lawyers who delay and obfuscate any kind of challenges brought about by councils or people.

The people who work there are dependent on the organisation for wages to feed and home their families, so understandably and invariably’ anti-anything which threatens their lifestyles.

Moreover, if wealthy, powerful people will abuse the ecology and environment of their own country, you can understand how they will definitely exploit countries such as Africa as Oladele Dosunmu 🇳🇬 is highlighting on his LinkedIn page.

It’s going to take some brave leadership to transform this world.

It’s necessary to highlight this behaviour, but don’t expect that the oil-tech capitalists will voluntarily transform their practice. They will have to be motivated and probably against their will.

As Buckminster Fuller advised: ‘Don’t fight the existing reality, create a better world which makes the old one obsolete’

#sustainability #health #environmental #oil #chemicalindustries #society #capitalism #pollution #asthma #wellbeing

Too Many TAPs, Not Enough STOP’s, We Need More LEGO

When I wrote my Book: ‘From Mercenaries to Missionaries’ I wanted to give entrepreneurs, executives and managers tools around leadership and teamwork that are sublimely simple and easy to implement. Too much of the leadership lexicon has fallen into the realms of academia. Nothing wrong with academic study, but academia is often the activity of proving what’s already known. Academia didn’t invent mindfulness but we have people who can explain the neuroscience of mindfulness but don’t practice mindfulness, teaching mindfulness.

Moreover; we sometimes experience academics developing philosophies from observed behaviour then presenting it as logic. Milton Freidman did this with shareholder greed. Just because it happens doesn’t make it right because an intellectual said it. On a couple of occasions recently, I have found myself talking to some learned people, or rather they were telling me I was wrong, when what I already knew from experience, was true.

TAP’s – Tools To Accumulate Power.

Ever since the agrarian revolution, competitive people have used technology to hoover resources from a wide area and funnel those resources into a place where they can control the supply. Like our water supply, drawn from a wide area and funnelled into a tap. In a household the water is shared freely, but not in business.

When you develop control of a resource in a capitalist system, you are not going to share the resources equally, you’re going to exploit the situation. Hence why trickledown economics has never worked. It was just another BS explanation which is used to perpetuate greed. Old world examples include the Oil Industry and Banks. They’ve been hoovering up local resources whilst holding the world to ransom and passing the costs of pollution and debt slavery onto society for a century.

The latest example is the ‘platform economy’. This is just another TAP and code for the ‘monopoly economy’. Recent platform examples include: Amazon- hoovering up the local economy, Facebook – hoovering up our attention, Google- Hoovering up information and ad revenue. Most tech ideas have the potential to make our lives and the world a better place. But the challenge comes when people don’t understand why in our present culture they soon become weapons of subjugation.

Platforms combine network effect and first-mover advantage to gain enough users which then makes them immune to competition. With monopoly comes monopoly behaviours and as other large organisations identify the benefits of using the platform effect, you can guarantee that there’ll be more bad behaviour on the horizon.

We need to understand that given an opportunity people will revert to an earlier evolutionary psychological state which is dominance hierarchy. Basically, our inner-monkey will not let go of the ‘Apple’ once they’ve a firm grasp, even if it is detrimental in the long term. Once a person or small group have achieved dominance, they begin to believe their own nonsense and develop a sense of entitlement. They delete, distort, generalise and convolute whatever information is available to argue their point, even to the point of calling in divine powers to back their case. Kings, Queens and Presidents have been at this for centuries, aided and abetted by Bureaucrats. No matter how much media exposure reveals them to be ordinary and somewhat quirky people who managed to gain an advantage, they still sit in castles and big white houses. Tech moguls are the new royalty.

Research of contemporary hunter-gatherer communities revealed them to be rather egalitarian. They were able to live in a less stressful social existance because they employ STOPs- Strategies To Overcome Power. If a hunter returned with a prize, the rest of the community would, in a good-naturedly way, mock him because they wouldn’t want the hunter to become too big for his boots. They understood arrogance, entitlement and hierarchy was not good for their communties well-being.

STOPs range from satire to assassination, rock throwing to revolution. It’s a way to redress the balance when hierarchical leaders exploit their position too much. Unfortunately, there is little appetite for making the world a fairer place, everyone in tech wants to become the next Larry Page or Jeff Bezos. As these tech giants rise in power, their ability to externalise costs onto society and the environment increases. If Facebook and Amazon had to pay for the damage they’ve inflicted on democracy, the environment and the public’s mental health, to name a few dmaging examples, they’d be bankrupt pretty quickly. They operate under a façade of delusion just as the tobacco industry did.

What we really need is more LEGO – Local Economic Generating Opportunities. TAPs focus power into small areas, we call them cities and of course if you are not part of the tech digital world, there shortly be very little for you to do unless you find opportunities to generate local economic opportunities. Brexit and the pandemic have revealed how reliant we are on extended distribution lines which are fragile and polluting.

What if we followed the doughnut, circular economic and employee ownership philosophies?

I believe these aforementioned ideas are just a return to a more natural evolutionary advantage we’ve forgotten in the pursuit of the capitalistic delusion. If tech people focussed on building local resilience with platforms then it wouldn’t have to be doom and gloom, they could probably be a force for good. Then tech entrepreneurs could shift from being Mercenaries to Inspirational Leaders on a Mission to make the world a better place.

THE FIVE SUPERPOWERS OF GREAT LEADERS

Archimedes said, ‘give me a lever long enough and a strong place to stand, and I can move the world’. Well the lever is leadership and the place to stand is humility.

With humility the word leader transforms from a noun to a verb. Leading is something that ordinary people can do to leverage the potential within other people, themselves, a team or a situation. With simple rules of behaviours amongst a group of people comes synergy, where the whole becomes more effective than the sum of its parts.

The following leadership Superpowers are really simple, the challenge for most ‘so-called’ leaders today is having the humility and compassion to want to be great leaders because most are ego-centric as opposed to eco-centric. There are plenty of great leaders out there but unfortunately their results and efforts are overpowered by ego-centric power brokers who maintain the status -quo.

The world needs great leadership and effective teamwork at every level and every corner of the world right now, if we’re to tackle the enormous challenges which have come about by ego-centric leadership that has run rampant supported by delusional ideology and institutions which condones selfish behaviour.

The five leadership super powers:

Listen and clarify: This requires cognitive intelligence and it is a skill which requires the leader to engage in focussed listening, summarising and questioning to ascertain more of the details.

Recognise and reward: A lot of people complain that they’re not recognised at work and in some of their closest relationships. It is often why people may move on from one organisation in search of more rewarding pastures.

Nobody wants to be a widget in the machine, especially since the social contract which kept people subservient in the Victorian era, has been shredded. An effective leader utilises behavioural intelligence to recognises people’s efforts when they’re doing good work and rewards them for their efforts.

Enquire and empathise: This requires the use of compassion and emotional intelligence. With this you enquire how a person is or a team is and you try to intuit how they are feeling so that you can understand their situation more clearly. Often this will mean listening for what isn’t being said, understanding the whole person and what’s going on in their life outside of the organisation, so you can support them.

Challenge and champion: Leaders should be constantly looking for ways to improve the structure and challenge the status-quo. It requires the use of social intelligence to see how the team are operating, the lines of communication, the informal networks and also looking outside to learn new ideas that can be assimilated into the organisation, team or individual. It also involves creativity to come up with new modus-operandi, products and services and then champion those ideas so everybody gets to hear about them.

Knowing what to do and when: Lastly, the leader needs to exercise situational awareness. This includes being self-aware enough to understand their own skills and what they may need to practice more of, but also a leader needs to be able to determine when and which Leader Superpower to exercise to optimise the situation.

Leading Yourself Through Challenging Times – Narrated Version 30 mins

The Delusion of VU (From VUCA) is Over!

I came across a discussion on twitter which alluded to the fact that the world was becoming more complex. This discussion was based on the ideas of General Stanley McChrystal, author of ‘Team of Teams, New Rules of Engagement for a Complex World’.

McChrystal wrote:

“Efficiency remains important, but the ability to adapt to complexity and continual change has become an imperative.”

I remember feeling irked about this statement and the reason for this response, (apart from having man-flu at the time) is that people are acting as if VUCA (the US military term to represent volatility, uncertainty, complexity and ambiguity) is a new phenomenon. That’s not correct, the world has always been subject to volatility, uncertainty, complexity and ambiguity. Ask poor people.

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Leadership Coaching for The Fourth Industrial Revolution

Anticipating and planning for a world which not even the experts know will look like yet, will bring fresh challenges – probably daily – for leaders, teams and the coaches who support them.

Here is a white paper on a new model of coaching suited to Modern Day Leadership Coaching. It’s aimed at leaders and coaches wanting to leverage more potential and unlock the opportunities within the chaos of the Fourth Industrial Revolution. Download here.

LEADERSHIP: Are you carrying or influencing your organisation?

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When I ask business owners the above question, they’ll often ask me what I mean. So I qualify the question with another one. I ask them:

“Could you go on holiday for four weeks, have no contact with your team whilst you’re away and know that the organisation can still thrive?”

Mostly the answer is a resounding “NO!” READ More