Don’t Be a CAD Leader!

Unfortunately, the world of work and capitalism is driven by stressful neurotransmitters such as cortisol, adrenaline and dopamine.

Founders and Entrepreneurs have to be driven people when it comes to breaking new ground and competing for their place in the world.

Technology and processed foods need to be addictive and give you a ‘RUSH’ otherwise you’d probably get off your phones and go spend more time in nature and eat fresh local produce.

People who’re very competitive rise to the top of the food chain in hierarchical organisations. They get a rush from crushing the competition. Status and power give them that adrenaline and dopamine rush they crave but it triggers the stress hormone cortisol in those around them.

From a leadership perspective, this feels great for the leader but it can mean that an organisation is reliant on the leader to keep driving. After all, if you can get by as an employee doing the bare minimum so as not to irk the mansplaining chump at the top, then why not?

It just isn’t very satisfying to live under the rule of a CAD driven leader, is it?

I sat in a meeting not long ago with one such white male (there were two females in the room). He asked if he could give me some blunt feedback. “Sure” I replied, realising I shouldn’t have taken this meeting whilst recovering from a dose of flu!

As he pontificated the two females were silent. It was obvious he was getting his dose of CAD at my expense as he continued to ‘no-mark’ me.

After he ran out of steam he asked “So why do you want to work with us?” …. By that time, I didn’t.

Normally I’d have asked to give him back some feedback in return, but I was pretty drained by then and I knew it would have fallen on deaf ears.

Why should I compete with his ego to explain why he and his ‘world-class’ organisation suffered from simplistic thinking, He didn’t realise there was a difference between complicated and complex. He is materially successful selling old world ideas and style over substance because he’s great at competing for business.

We’re experiencing stressful times; we don’t need more trauma inducing leadership.

In a world of ambiguous and novel challenges, we need more self-aware, purpose focussed and supportive leaders who are open-minded and willing to learn collaboratively their way forward.

Leaders who don’t need to be rewarded with the rush of cortisol, adrenaline and dopamine at the expense of those around them.

#business #leadership #work #power #entrepreneurs #leader #complexity #traumainformed #leadership

 

The Hero’s Journey Through Trauma

Acknowledge — The hero realises that a journey must be undertaken because they’ve arrived at a place referred to in hypnotherapy as the point of ‘No More, Never Again’. It’s the call to adventure because there is a mighty battle to face in search of a new reality. It means confronting all manner of dark foes such as overwhelm, fear, shame, guilt, cowardice, addictions, anger, sadness and anxiety. It’s no wonder the hero often ‘refuses the call’.

Apotheosis — The hero momentarily transcends their normal reality, becoming an outside observer with the help of a ‘supernatural aid’, a guide who can facilitate greater awareness. This point of realisation instils greater understanding of what life would look and feel like when lived authentically. Armed with this new knowledge and perception, the hero is ready to ‘cross the first threshold’ and the adventure begins.

Agency– The guide teaches the hero some useful techniques which can help the hero going forward. This gives the hero ability and responsibility for their own wellbeing and safety. The guide is only a catalyst for the transformation the hero must undertake, so it’s important the hero develops increasing agency and awareness throughout the journey.

Acceptance — The hero enters the ‘Belly of the Whale’ and commits fully to the journey. It is the final separation from the old world into the new. It is a challenging phase which shows a willingness by the hero to undergo a metamorphosis.

Assess- Removed from the turbulent but familiar world, the hero is aided by the guide or a community who can help them become whole. By assessing what has happened, what is working and what needs to change, the hero understands the ‘road of trials’ to be faced. Within the new relationship with the guide or guides, the hero experiences positive recognition, support and safety.

Alter- When their body feels safe to do so, the hero can begin to revisit, reframe and reimagine their past and future. This phase is a journey of curiosity and exploration as different modalities will have differing results. Each hero and their journey are unique.

Authenticity — As time passes the hero begins to live more authentically. Living in a way which is true to possibly newfound beliefs, values, integrity and courage. There may be some further changes required within their eco-system and environment. Reintegration into the familiar world of family, friends and everyday reality can be challenging on both sides for the hero has changed and others may not be aware of the hero’s undertaking or care for it.

Living authentically is a perpetual journey, living a balance between purpose and the material world. ‘Mastery of two worlds’ requires the hero to increasingly make their own choices and voice their opinions, with confidence and compassion, so that the hero can enjoy the ‘freedom to live’.

#stoicpilgrim

#resilience

#mindset

#mentalhealth

#survivalskillsforlife

#doingwhatsrightnotwhatseasy

#alwaysalittlefurther

#wellbeing

Eco-Coaching – What is it? & Why the World Needs it Now!

Like most ideas in life, people have various viewpoints on what terms mean and entail.

Eco-Coaching will be one of those too.

From my perspective eco-coaching can be utilised out in nature and if possible, should be for 4 reasons:

  • Whilst walking side-by-side in nature we begin to feel a level of connection, and as we exercise our legs and our lungs, we begin to release beneficial neurotransmitters. One in particular is Anandamide. Anandamide derives from the Sanskrit word for bliss and it opens our blood vessels allowing oxygen and nutrients to flow more easily around our body and brain. It also makes us more creative.
  • The natural world has 3.8 billion years of evolutionary wisdom embedded. Being amongst it allows a skilled coach to utilise examples of the natural world as a metaphor during the conversation.
  • We were designed to look over wide vistas, when we look at small screens and live in cubicles, it narrows our perspective and as a result our options.
  • It’s just an enjoyable and rejuvenating experience.

But that’s not the fundamental principle of eco-coaching in my view. At the moment humanity is out of balance with its own eco-system. This is because we’ve been using egological systems and ideologies at the expense of ecological ones.

In summary, the personal development field has been dominated by ‘What I think’ & ‘What I want’ over ‘What we think’ ‘What will the impacts be?’ & ‘What else could we do?’

We’ve built systems based on the mechanistic, linear and hierarchical ever since technological gave some bloke and advantage at the beginning of the agrarian revolution 13k years ago.

But in order to realise that, the winners of the simplistic paradigm have had to externalise all the messy costs onto the rest of society and the natural systems which support us.

It’s like some people have climbed a tree and are now cutting the tree behind themselves because they don’t want to share the fruits of the tree.

On the  Joseph Campbell called this:

‘The Refusal of the Return’

Using an ecology check in your coaching and decision-making means putting in a CRAP filter in the process:

Consequences: What are the other effects downstream of this decision?

Real costs: If you do this, what will be the real costs other than just financial?

Assumptions: What are you assuming to be true? What are the unexamined beliefs that require testing?

People & Planet: Do people really want to go to Mars? Does Mother Nature want us to destroy what’s left of the ecosystem and exploit children, just so that a small minority of the world’s population can travel in EVs?

 

Developing a Mountain of RESILIENCE

stocksnap_8pz7meslnx-800x533When you’re going through some tough times you really have two challenges going on simultaneously. One is the outer world challenge you’re faced with and the other one is the battle that’s raging on the inside. You have to master your inner game if you want to overcome the challenges life throws at you.

I found this out when engaged in the selection process the Special Air Service Regiment puts potential candidates through, in order to assess their suitability. The ‘Regiment’ has some intriguing ways to test your inner game. Some are blunt instruments and some more complex. I developed a technique which helped me through the physically and mentally demanding challenges I faced. READ More:

 

 

 

 

RESILIENCE… Oxford’s word of the year for 2017?

stocksnap_0dtifdzwy8The Oxford English dictionary announced after much discussion and research, that the word of the Year for 2016 was post-truth.

It described post-truth as an adjective defined as

 ‘relating to or denoting circumstances in which objective facts are less influential in shaping public opinion than appeals to emotion and personal belief’.

The word post-truth has been around for decades, but its usage spiked recently as a result of the Brexit referendum and the US elections. These two events combined with other daily news makes us all wonder if our environment, economy and society will survive. READ More